Category Archives: Proverbs 31

What Women Really Want? A biblical perspective.

In the process of trying to catch up on the audio from one of my favorite call in talk shows, The Albert Mohler Program, business-woman-thinkingI came across a very interesting program from Friday September 25th this past week. In the program he commented and took calls about a recent article by columnist Maureen Dowd, a self-described feminist, in the New York Times. The title of the article was “Blue Is the New Black“. In the article Dowd points to some interesting data. She points to a survey by the General Social Survey, which has been tracking the mood of Americans since 1972, that indicates women have progressively been getting gloomier while men are getting happier. While the article doesn’t really come to any resolution for the funk women seem to be in, it does bring up some great observations. According to Dr. Mohler the article raises some questions that we should have an intellegent Christian conversation about. I agree.

One of Dowd’s observations is this:

When women stepped into male- dominated realms, they put more demands — and stress — on themselves. If they once judged themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens and dinner parties, now they judge themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens, dinner parties — and grad school, work, office deadlines and meshing a two-career marriage.

What this observation does is walk around a self-centeredness that is very common in our society today. Of course we know from a biblical world view the bottom factor is sinful pride, which has it’s affect on all of mankind. Aside from that, after three decades beyond the feminist revolution that promised women fulfillment, what have we really learned? What do women want, and why? What should make a woman happy or satisfied?

Dr. Mohler’s radio show is a call in show and many of his callers on this subject were women. Most of them commented about working towards a career early in their life and not finding real fulfillment until they quit the professional workplace and stayed at home to focus on the family and the home. One caller expressed when women are more driven toward a professional career they are going against what they were created for. I’m far from being an expert on women, but I have spoken with many who are godly and they all mention Proverbs 31 as a great biblical example of what a woman should want. Ultimately, as Dr. Mohler points out, the best response to the question is the gospel.

This is a great discussion that is of great importance and significance. I would encourage you to listen to the program, found at the link above and referenced at the link below.

What Women Want: A Response to Feminism


15 years and counting

Today is the anniversary of the marriage to my lovely wife Proverbs 31 wifeRobin. It’s hard to believe we have been together that long. We surely did not start out in the best of circumstances but we are sure great examples of God’s grace towards His elect. We had been through more than our share of trials it seemed but looking back at them now, I can see God’s hand molding us. I try to thank God every day for his gracious gift of my wife. I know that by God’s grace on her that she has been able to put up with this geeky, quiet, southern boy from Tennessee. To that I would like to post a portion of Proverbs 31 to the honor of God and my wife.

10 An excellent wife who can find?She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm,all the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax,and works with willing hands. 14 She is like the ships of the merchant;she brings her food from afar. 15 She rises while it is yet nightand provides food for her householdand portions for her maidens. 16 She considers a field and buys it;with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. 17 She dresses herself with strengthand makes her arms strong. 18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.Her lamp does not go out at night. 19 She puts her hands to the distaff,and her hands hold the spindle. 20 She opens her hand to the poorand reaches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,for all her household are clothed in scarlet. 22 She makes bed coverings for herself;her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gateswhen he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them;she delivers sashes to the merchant. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,and she laughs at the time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looks well to the ways of her householdand does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;her husband also, and he praises her: 29 Many women have done excellently,but you surpass them all. 30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,and let her works praise her in the gates.

BTW, have blessed Friday the 13th. Only someone who is ignorant of a sovereign God would be anxious on an day such as today.

Soli Deo Gloria, 

Barry Dean


Posted by on July 13, 2007 in Anniversary, marriage, Proverbs 31